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Fund-raising for St Richard’s

I bumped into an ex-colleague of mine at work today, who used to work quite closely with Chris. She left several years ago, but still does odd bits of consultancy for the company. I hadn’t seen her since Chris died, so she asked me how I was doing and we had a quick chat in between our various meetings. She said that, partly because of her knowing Chris, the choir that she’s a member of has made St Richard’s Hospice their charity for this year. She told me that she had very recently been thinking about him, as she had just been on a visit to see the facilities the hospice offers, and was very impressed.

I’m so pleased that her choir is supporting such a worthy charity. St Richard’s was there for Chris and me when we really needed them, and I have nothing but praise for them.

End-of-year-itis

It’s the end of the Financial Year tomorrow, and I’m really looking forward to it! It has been completely manic at work for the past month, culminating in a final report on my main project, which I was responsible for producing. Writing the content was challenging enough – there is a lot of stakeholder politics involved which can set traps for the unwary – but I particularly hate wrestling with M$ Word. For example, section 4 of the report decided unilaterally to set its default dictionary to French! So instead of being titled “Constraints and Considerations”, Word was insisting on “Contraintes et Considérations”……. I have absolutely no idea why, and had to call on one of our Word Ninjas to force it back into English again. Nor do I understand why the inclusion of a couple of footnotes in one of the annexes completely screwed up the footers, but at least that was easy to work around by jettisoning the footnotes. Bill Gates has a lot to answer for, not least my elevated blood pressure and rapidly greying hair!

I have been working on the report flat out since last Tuesday, including the weekend, and am absolutely shattered! My project manager delivered the finished document to the customer yesterday and I think that my body took that as a sign to go on strike. I had hoped to have paced myself to make it to the Year End, and had planned to review a colleague’s milestone report today and then possibly take tomorrow off as Time Off in Lieu of last weekend. But in fact I woke up this morning with a full-on migraine – throwing up whenever I moved my head, wincing at light and noise, an axe-murderer pounding my left temple, the works. I wasn’t safe to drive, so I had to call in sick and spend a very lazy day at home today, doing absolutely nothing, while I waited for the painkillers to kick in. And I’ll have to go into work tomorrow after all to review that other report which needs to finished and delivered by the end of the afternoon.

Clinical Genetics

My father has been enlivening his retirement by looking into our family history, and tracing both sides of the family back through many generations. It’s fascinating stuff, but some of it has more relevance to the present day than we had anticipated. It’s become very clear, looking at the family tree, that just about all the women on my mother’s side – going back several generations – get cancer of either the breast or uterus, and sometimes with some others thrown in for good measure. They don’t necessarily die of it, as in fact we are a pretty long-lived family, but the pattern is very striking.

I mentioned this to my GP about a year ago, and he was totally dismissive – basically telling me to make sure I keep groping myself for breast lumps. Not helpful. My sister’s GP, on the other hand, immediately referred her to the Royal Marsden hospital, one of the top cancer hospitals, where they took a full family history and said that there was enough evidence to put her on the enhanced breast screening programme, which basically is an annual mammogram. They said that, statistically, I was also at elevated risk of breast cancer, and they recommended that I get myself onto a similar screening programme.

So I went back to my GP, carefully choosing a different doctor from the one who had been so dismissive earlier. I ostentatiously got out copies of the family tree on Royal Marsden headed paper, and spoke about my sister’s proactive London GP taking decisive action in referring her. Well, my GP didn’t want to be thought to be less than proactive or a country cousin, so I walked out of the surgery with an appointment already booked for two weeks later at a Breast Care clinic at Worcester Hospital.

They took one look at the family history – still on Royal Marsden headed paper – and referred me for an immediate mammogram (which was clear) to be followed by the annual breast screening programme. So at least if anything does develop there is a good chance that they’ll catch it early. They also, however, referred me on further to the Clinical Genetics team from Birmingham Women’s Hospital.

So yesterday I spent an hour with a clinical genetics consultant going through my family tree in great detail. Apparently, the pattern of cancers involved is very unusual, and they think it’s going to be worth looking into it in more detail, to see if they can identify or rule out some specific gene variants. The main ones are the breast cancer genes, BRCA1 and BRCA2, but they also want to rule out some other, rarer, inherited cancers arising from different faulty genes. This is likely to involve getting hold of tumour tissue samples stored from when my 91-year old grandmother had a tumour removed decades ago, and testing it for particular genes which have been identified in the meantime. I hadn’t realised that tissue samples are stored for so long, but apparently so.

None of this will be particularly quick. They want to test my mother for the BRCA genes, which will take about two months. If she tests positive then there is a 50% chance that I will also be a carrier, and the same for my sister. If my grandmother’s tissue sample can be located and tests positive (a minimum of six months for that process) then a cascade of tests will be offered down the generations. We will each then need to decide whether we want to take the test and know for certain one way or the other. I’ve already decided that I would want to know – I’d much rather have the information and work with it than be left in the dark. That’s probably the scientist in me!

I’m finding the process very interesting, and everything is entirely hypothetical at the moment anyway. Even if one is a carrier, that merely increases one’s risk of contracting the specific cancer – it doesn’t make it certain, and there are mitigation opportunities offered such as enhanced screening or prophylactic surgery. The worst aspect of the whole thing is that the clinics are held at Worcester Hospital. That’s certainly better than having to travel to the parent department at Birmingham Women’s Hospital – except that I absolutely hate going to the Worcester Hospital. I get the screaming ab-dabs at the mere thought of it – probably because Christopher and I went there every single week while he was ill, and every time we got bad news.

College Gaudy

On Saturday there was a Spring Gaudy at my Oxford College for my year and the two years above me. This is a once-every-ten-years black-tie dinner when we get invited back to Balliol to meet our contemporaries, and (of course) get asked for donations to support the College. It was the first really big formal dinner I’ve been to since Chris died, and I’m afraid I didn’t enjoy it as much as I’d hoped. You have to be in the right mood and frame of mind to get the most out of such occasions, and I simply wasn’t. I was in fact feeling rather antisocial. I was also fighting off a stinking headache, so I was going easy on the alcohol, although at least that meant I avoided the hangover which is invariably induced by the College Port.

Dinner in Hall at Balliol is always a grand affair. The walls are lined with portraits of famous and/or distinguished alumni (all men of course which riles the feminist in me!). I was sitting facing pictures of Harold Macmillan and Roy Jenkins, and you could almost feel the continuity of history over the centuries since the college was founded 749 years ago. The food seems to have improved somewhat since I was there as a student, but the biggest change I noticed was that the student rooms have been refurbished and redecorated, and now have telephones and central heating. I suppose if they are being charged fees, the students expect greater comfort and more facilities than in my day. I had a two-bar electric fire in my room and phoned home once a week from a payphone.

It was good to go back and catch up with people, and I was glad I’d made the effort as I’m sure it will have done me good. But, apart from a few whom I see regularly anyway, most of the people there were not my particular friends from my time at college, but rather people on the edge of my social circle whom I knew vaguely but was not then, and still am not now, particularly interested in.

A functioning oven!

DAR phoned and left a message at 08:30 on Wednesday to say that they had sourced the correct element for my oven, and when could they come and fit it? Unfortunately, I’d left the house hours earlier to get to an all-day meeting at a customer site, but I phoned them in a coffee break to agree a mutually convenient time. I was away at a different customer site all day yesterday too, but was able to arrange to work from home again this morning. Thank goodness for broadband!

As Paul suggested in the comments, once the chap had the correct spare part, it was little more than a ten minute job to replace it. I’m sure I could have done it myself if I’d had the inclination – I am an engineer after all! But I simply haven’t had the time to track down the correct part, and sometimes it’s just more convenient to pay a contractor to get the job done. And they only charged me one call-out fee to cover both visits which seemed fair.

I am very pleased indeed to have a functioning oven again. I’m getting sick of stir-fries and stove-top casseroles. It’s nice to have back access to the full range of things I know how to cook!

The wrong shape of element

Thank you to everyone who has commented to say that DAR are reliable and that you recommend them. The oven-repair man arrived on time this morning and swiftly diagnosed that yes, indeed, the element is broken. I had told the shop the make and model of my oven, and he had come prepared with a replacement element that the Hotpoint database said was the correct spare part.

Except that it clearly wasn’t. It was the wrong shape (a single loop rather than two loops of heating element), the wrong size (about an inch too big in diameter) and with fixings the wrong distance apart. He’s taken a photo with his phone of the correct element, jotted down the serial number of the oven, and gone away to try to source the correct part. And in the meantime I still have a broken oven and no timescale for getting it fixed……

This keeps happening to me! I think it took four attempts before a different contractor was able to supply the correct part for my leaking hot water system last year.

Even more contractors needed

Carol is making fun of me in the comments for having a house which seems to attract tradesmen like butterflies around a buddlia bush. But it’s getting worse by the day! On Thursday evening my oven packed up. That was particularly annoying because I had made a huge effort for my dinner and prepared a courgette and cheese soufflé, one of my absolute favourites which I have recently taught myself to cook. But after 35 minutes in the oven it was still an unrisen puddle of warm egg mixture, which was when I made the discovery that the heating element in the oven had failed – apparently about half way through the cooking time, as it had been hot when I put the dish in the oven.

I really can’t do without an oven. So I’m going to have to work from home on Tuesday while yet another tradesman comes to call, this time from the hopefully-named Domestic Appliance Repair shop. I sincerely hope that they live up to their name!

Foot through the decking…..

I had a chap come round yesterday to quote for fixing the broken fencing in the garden. That turned out to be easier and cheaper than I had expected – the fencing is now in fact superfluous to requirements. Since we put it up 12 years ago or so, a large hedge has established itself alongside. So the boundary will still be secure enough and well defined if I just have the broken tumbling-down fence panels removed completely. Then, if I feel over-exposed I can always get new fencing installed later.

But while we were up at the top of the garden looking at it, the chap slipped on the decking on the top terrace and put his foot clean through it! Not only is the wooden decking covered in slime and badly in need of a pressure-wash, but it’s clearly rotten in places. So I’ve accepted his quote for taking down and removing the fence panels, and asked him to quote separately for pressure-washing and repairing the decking. Fortunately I have an exterior power socket as well as an outside tap, so I won’t need to take time off to be here while they do the work.

More work needed in the garden

I was showing Tom and Katie around “the estate” at the weekend, as they haven’t been here since I’ve had the structural engineering done in the garden. It’s quite interesting seeing it through someone else’s eyes – there is such a difference from how it was before that it’s really quite impressive.

We went right up to the top terrace to get a view down over the house and garden, and it was there that I made a most unwelcome discovery. The fencing at the top of the garden is falling down – it’s in really bad condition and it looks like all the fence panels need completely replacing. In fact it looks like it’s been vandalised by someone kicking in the panels, though I dare say it could just be the weather as there’s been some heavy winds recently. It was fine last time I was up there a few weeks ago, but now it clearly needs significant work. I’ve arranged for someone to come around tomorrow to give me a quote for replacing the fencing. Annoying, but unfortunately necessary.

Eating very well

I seem to have been eating particularly well this week! On Thursday I went to my favourite pub, the Plough and Harrow at Guarlford, for dinner with a group of friends, most of whom used to work with me. That was fun. I did struggle to eat three courses – duck terrine, twice-baked cheese soufflé, and white chocolate mousse with passion-fruit jelly – but it’s amazing how I do always seem to have room for the dessert!

This weekend was also a major pigging-out occasion. On Saturday lunchtime I met up with my college friends Katie and Tom, their daughter Tia, and Tom’s parents at the Talbot in Knghtwick. That was rather a foodie pub, with an emphasis on local produce, home-grown vegetables and home-made just about everything. Including home-brewed beer which Tom and his father both sampled. Again, I struggled to finish my absolutely huge ploughmans lunch with local cheeses, but the staff very kindly packed up the left-over cheeses (which were far too good to waste) into a doggie-bag for me to take home.

Katie came back with me for the weekend, for us to do some proper catching-up, while the others headed back into Wales for Tom and Tia to spend some time with her grandparents. I cooked Katie my pomegranate lamb for Saturday dinner. I’m beginning to feel a bit like a one-trick pony when it comes to cooking for guests, but it is remarkably easy and absolutely delicious (even if I say so myself!). We certainly polished it off between us – I had thought there might be enough left for me to freeze for dinner later in the week, but there was no chance of that!

Today Katie cooked us a huge Sunday brunch of bacon, scrambled eggs, sausages, spinach,  grilled tomatoes, and pitta-bread. Then Tom and Tia picked her up to head back home to London, and dropped off a box of chocolate fairy cakes which Tia and Tom’s mother had cooked this morning. I’ve just sampled them and they’re very good!

So all together it’s been a very good few days on the food front. I think I’ll just need a very light dinner tonight!