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I am a former research scientist, now temporarily of independent means, fighting oesophageal cancer and learning to support myself without a salary.

Kitchen looked like an abattoir

After completely abdicating on the cooking front on Friday, and having left-over Chinese takeaway for Saturday lunch, I thought I’d better make an effort for Saturday dinner. That always used to be our big meal of the week, when Christopher cooked something special which required more effort than mId-week. It’s a tradition I’ve tried to […]

Counting the Calories

I have spent the last two nights away on business, staying at a Holiday Inn at a service area a few miles away from a customer’s site. That was slightly more salubrious than it sounds, as it was quite a nice service area, off an A-road not a motorway, but chosen by the company on […]

One leak fixed, one to go

I’d arranged to work at home on Tuesday so that Tony could fix my dripping hot water tank. But when I was still having my breakfast that morning, I got a phone call to say that the supplier had delivered the wrong part, again. So we rearranged for Wednesday. I’d run out of sensible things […]

Scattering the ashes – part 2 of n

Sorry for the break in transmission over the past week. I’ve just got back today from a week’s holiday in Croatia. I made an agreement with Christopher before he died that I would use his small pension to pay for one good holiday per year, and take some of his ashes with me to scatter […]

…and relax

I’ve been pretty tense for the last few weeks. What with dealing with the anniversary of Christopher’s death, and working flat out on a major bid at work, things have been rather stressful at both home and work. Mind you, I don’t mean to complain about having to work hard – it’s been very good […]

The Big Chill

The Big Chill Festival is on again in the grounds of Eastnor Castle, just down the road from me. Last year, the disruption it caused to us locals was massive. On the Thursday night, I had needed to get home from the hospice, and the friend who gave me a lift got caught in the […]

Preliminary scan results – Bad news.

By Gillian from the hospice I spoke to one of the doctors here this morning. The scan report is not ready yet. But following yesterday’s rough day they have taken a sneak preview at the raw scan. The preliminary diagnosis is a secondary brain tumour at the back of the skull. That would explain the […]

Update from hospice day 7

By Gillian (using Christopher’s iPad at the hospice) I have been here all day and it has been quite a gruelling day altogether. There has been a step-change for the worse I’m afraid. He had a fit this morning – very like the one in January and again on the train, and collapsed on the […]

Visiting the consultants

Yesterday I saw the palliative care consultant, and was scheduled to see the oncology consultant. I spent a long time with the palliative care consultant, and by the end of the meeting it really wasn’t necessary to see the oncology consultant, as we had covered all my signs and symptoms in the first meeting. The […]

Post chemo week 8 status

What a week! I feel as though I have been vomiting all week, although I managed to avoid it on Friday morning, I have sacrificed my morning cup of tea every other day since Monday. I vomited twice this morning for good measure. It was so bad that I phoned the palliative care nurse to […]