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Made it through the week

Wednesday was the third anniversary of Christopher’s death. I know it’s only a date, and only has significance if I choose to give it that, but it has still been a difficult week and I’ve been fighting off headaches and depression. I was invited round to lunch on Sunday by some close friends, and that was enjoyable and a good distraction. On the day itself I had a full-day customer meeting at our Hampshire HQ, which was hard work but at least gave me something constructive to concentrate on and stopped me moping.

I’m trying to “be nice” to myself at the moment and not overdo things, as I am well aware that I’m a bit shaky. So I took Thursday off as Time Off In Lieu of the very long day on Wednesday, and treated myself to lunch in town at the Fig Tree, a bistro that Christopher and I used to enjoy eating at. I just had a light lunch of an open sandwich with Parma ham and goats cheese, followed by a slice of gooey carrot cake and a large coffee. But it made a pleasant change.

On Friday afternoon I met up in town with an ex-colleague of Christopher’s for coffee and a pastry. I hadn’t seen Neil for far too long, and it was really good to catch up with all of his news and gossip.

Overall, the anniversary was easier this year than last year, which in turn was much easier than the year before. So things are definitely getting better. It’s just slower and harder than I had ever imagined.

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  1. Catharine | 12 August 2013 at 4:25 am | Permalink

    Congratulations – it’s no small thing to get through it. I’ve found with my mother’s death 3.5 years ago that every year is easier too.

  2. Gillian | 13 August 2013 at 8:29 am | Permalink

    Thank you Catharine. That’s helpful