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The best-laid plans of mice and men…

By Gillan
Late this afternoon I was given a lift home by a friend. I put on the laundry, updated the blog, made some phone-calls and emails. Then I raided the fridge and larder to see what was still in date that I could call supper. Just then the hospice phoned. Chris had got very agitated, and fallen out of bed again. That’s the third time in less than 24 hours. They asked me to come back into the hospice to sit with him this evening and to sleep on a camp bed in his room overnight. Basically, they think he will still listen and respond to me, and be less agitated if I am here.

There was a logistical issue in getting back here. My sister has forbidden me from driving at the moment as I am liable to get too upset to see straight. There are loads of friends (many of whom are commenting on this blog) whom I’m sure would be happy to drive me back to Worcester. But the Big Chill music festival is causing tailbacks of about an hour right past our house, so it would take an inordinate time to get to me from Malvern. Luckily our kind neighbour Maggie stepped in to help, and drove me back to the hospice. I do hope that the traffic has cleared somewhat for her to get back home.

I have spoken again to the medical staff here. They reassure me that Chris has not hurt himself in the fall. They have increased his sedation still further to settle him overnight. I hope he has a quiet night, and that we are both able to get some sleep.

{ 7 } Comments

  1. Frosty | 5 August 2010 at 9:39 pm | Permalink

    Gillian, if we can help at all with anything…food shopping, logistics, anything please let us know.
    Thinking of you both x

  2. Seonaid Teal | 5 August 2010 at 9:40 pm | Permalink

    I hope Chris has a quiet night and that you are able to get some sleep. Your strength is amazing. Best Wishes Seonaid

  3. Katie | 5 August 2010 at 9:43 pm | Permalink

    Hi gillian. Sorry to hear you didnt get some time off at home. Lots of love to you both and hope we can see you soon. Love ktt x

  4. Richard P | 5 August 2010 at 10:43 pm | Permalink

    Dear Gillian,
    We do hope you manage to get a bit of rest after yet another change of plan.
    I wish there was some way we could provide Chris with even a shadow of the reassurance and comfort you are able to. Keep strong.
    Please ring day or night if we can support you in any way.
    Love to you both,

  5. Emma | 5 August 2010 at 11:00 pm | Permalink

    Hi Gillian and Chris,

    Chris knows Dan (Leivers) more than me, we have only met a f ew times over nice cosy pints in Malvern! However, Dan and I have been reading the blog since last year and following Chris’ progress. We both just wanted to say what a great mountain of courage you both show towards each other. There is no way that either of us could ever imagine what you both must be going through… Very sorry to hear all the latest news. All we hope for is that Chris can gain some comfort where he is and that you are able to get some well deversed rest. A little quote from Dr. Seuss that I hope will make you smile 🙂

    “I have heard there are troubles of more than one kind. Some come from ahead and some come from behind. But I’ve bought a big bat. I’m all ready you see. Now my troubles are going to have troubles with me!”

    Thinking of you both x Emma and Dan x

  6. David Allsopp | 5 August 2010 at 11:03 pm | Permalink

    Sorry the time away didn’t work out – hope you have a reasonable night’s sleep at least. Love, D&A

  7. Sam Carrington | 6 August 2010 at 9:22 am | Permalink

    I’ve had to reword my original entry, and Webmail didn’t like it. It wasn’t even that bad for me.

    Blimey, it is never ending for you both. You are in our thoughts
    Sam x